Differences Between Chinese and Japanese Women

A cheeky (and slightly narrow) examination of how Chinese and Japanese women differ, as found on Chinasmack.com

But what would the list for Chinese and Japanese men be like, I wonder? :)

Link: 14 Differences Between Japanese Women & Chinese Women

Asian-American male's annoyed message to Asian female on Craigslist

Photo: joyce_l

This Asian American male obviously got hacked off by the behaviour of an Asian girl and made his feelings known on the classified ads site Craigslist. It starts like this...

You: Asian, young(ish), cute, petite, left-of-center, cosmopolitan.

Me: The Asian guy you would never dream of giving a second glance.

Hi! I’m so sad that you were offended by my very presence at your favorite boutique coffee shop...

The full post continues here.

via Look At This

Asian girl suffers from 'White Fever'

Poor girl. Can nothing be done about this condition? :)

AOMORI, JAPAN—At first glance, 17-year-old Misaki Nakajima seems like any other shy and submissive Japanese schoolgirl. She loves shopping, text messaging, and the color pink. But beneath her wholesome exterior lies a wicked secret: Misaki Nakajima is consumed by ... fantasies involving sweaty, middle-aged American men.

Article: The Onion
Related: Wanted: Chinese Women

Wanted: Chinese Women Pt. 2

Here's a slightly funny, and slightly sad, footnote to my earlier post 'Goodbye, Oriental City'.

As I was walking around taking pictures on my last visit to Colindale, I spotted this strange advertisement stuck on the glass door leading to the car park (if you're familiar with OC, it was right near the durian shop).

I had to double-take to make sure it was real. This is a personal ad from white male seeking a Chinese female.


Cheaply printed and crudely stuck onto a window, it is a desperate and yet, in a way, quite disrespectful lonelyhearts ad. The man who did this is employing methods more commonly used to locate lost cats or sell used cars to find what is meant to be the love of his life - a Chinese woman.

The full text of the 'ad' reads:

CAUCASIAN MAN SEEKS ORIENTAL LADY
For serious long term relationship

Him:

• Age 59, considered handsome & looks 10 years younger.
• Blond hair, blue eyes, medium build, 1.75m tall.
• Reasonably fit & in good health, a non-smoker & occasional drinker
• Star sign Taurus DOB 1948
• Professional and resides in Hendon Central, with own house and car.
• Divorced after 27 years, has 2 adult daughters who have their own homes.
• Not looking to father a new baby.
• Seeking sole mate (sic), friend, lover & equal partner.
• Share fun and laughter plus life's ups and downs.

Her:

• Age 35-45, long hair would be nice, non-smoker, speaks English.
• Good home-maker, honest, attractive, sensual and likes to dress well.
• She may have children, no problem, depends on circumstances.
• Gold-diggers definitely not welcomed so no time-wasters.

If interested, please call 0779....

So many questions...

What kind of personal skills does a person have, who thinks that this is an appropriate way to find a wife? A 'sensual' one, at that!

Are the standards of Chinese women so low that someone would seriously consider such a request for marriage? Imagine if he actually got together with someone; Imagine telling the 'how we met' story to friends and family!

What do you think?

Related: Wanted: Chinese Women

Man with extreme 'yellow fever' arrested. Just one of many, claims Asian women's group

AsianWeek reports on a disturbing case of 'yellow fever' aka 'Asian fetish' at the prestigious Princeton University that became so extreme it was psychotic.

Michael Lohman (a top computational maths student) was arrested for secretly cutting and hoarding hair from young Asian women, as well as other sex-related acts all involving female Asian students. Warning: The article contains details some may find repugnant or offensive.

Source: AsianWeek.

And you know what's even worse?: Lohman has been married for four years and his wife is - you guessed it - Asian.

So either he was very clever at hiding his perversion (well, until he got arrested, anyway) or his wife was a little on the naive side. *sigh*

Whilst the case is certainly unusual, AsianWeek quotes a number of Asian females who give the impression that sexual harassment of Asian students is not rare at all:

Yin Ling Leung, organizational director of the National Asian Pacific American Women’s Forum (NAPAWF), said this was more than an isolated incident by a psychologically unstable man. “It’s not the first time, and it won’t be the last,” Leung said. “Sexual assault of Asian women on college campuses is a major issue. You get a room of five Asian American women together, and they all have stories about sexual harassment.”

“It’s happened on an epidemic proportion,” [Author Helen Zia, who graduated in Princeton’s first class of women] added. “It’s this image of Asian American women being exotic and passive and won’t fight back and speak up. Predators think they have free rein with Asian American women.”

Part of the problem is a widespread belief that men who have a fetish for Asian women are harmless.

“Asian fetish is seen as a tongue-in-cheek thing, like ‘We just happen to like Asian women,’” Leung said. “It’s not as innocent as it looks.”

Well, it certainly wasn't in the case of Michael Lohman.

Related: Originally spotted on Ningin.com.

Wanted: Chinese Women

Something I mentioned in an earlier post is the strange contradiction in Western culture whereby Chinese (or Asian) females are stereotyped as alluring and attractive to Western men ('pleasure givers' is one phrase I've heard used) but at the same time, relationships between white men and Chinese/Asian women are often mocked or looked down upon.

Why is this? Could it be anything to do with the types of white males who specifically try to hook up with Chinese women?

I got the chance (accidentally) to investigate this when I went to ThisIsLondon, entered the word 'Chinese' in the search box and came up with the following sponsored link:

Chineselovelinks.com

"Chinese Women Seek Dating and Marriage - Thousands of Chinese single women seek UK men for dating and marriage. Browse photo profiles and register free now."

I swear I'm not looking for a date or marriage at the moment, but as an inquisitive blogger, it was my duty to click on the link and investigate further.

What I found was at times quite funny, but also an interesting glimpse into the world of 'Non-Chinese Men Who Are Specifically Looking for a Chinese Woman'.

Who are these men? Why Chinese in particular? And most importantly of all, is it funny to be able to browse a website like this without having to register or pay a fee? (Answer: Yes)

So, purely in the interests of research (okay, and a little bit for laughs too), here are a few selected highlights from the Men Seeking Chinese Women section. All the ads are real but the comments are my own.

As a disclaimer, I'd just like to say that all the guys on the site are probably perfectly nice people. It's just that the comedy potential couldn't be missed :)

Remember, all the guys below are looking specifically for a Chinese woman.

Troy, 31.

The grubby vest and bathroom mirror photo combo is always a hit. Right, ladies?








John, 49

Seeks either a wife or someone to form a Northern comedy double act with.









Sanam, 37.

The key to a good personal ad is to highlight your most attractive feature - in this case, chest hair.








Michael, 55

A poet once said the eyes are the window to the soul. In that case, my soul must be a bit mad.









Makaveli, 26

Caring and compassionate. As long as you don't annoy me.









Ismail, 46

Ladies, one day this sofa could be yours (to share)









Dante, 21

"Ni ho ma, DUDE!!!!!"









Carlos, 40.

Genuine ad text: "Very unstable."

I'm a big fan of all Chinese culture, especially Jean Claude Van Damme movies.







Ulysse, 58

Seeks a lady with whom to share my love of pies.








Brad/ yang guang, 36

I have chosen a Chinese name which should put you right at ease.









Mark, 46

I may be 46 but I live by my motto, "you're as young as your hairstyle appears to be!"









Simon, 50

I'm dynamic, exciting, spontaneous, sexy and cool. Sorry about the pic, the chair I was sitting on was too small.









Sebastian, 29.

Please don't be put off by the fact that I am a disembodied head.










Jim, 36

I put a lot of effort into having this photo taken so please show some appreciation by replying to me, for goodness sake.

And my favourite dish is sweet and sour pork.








Adam, 52

You're never to old to own a webcam and wear dark glasses indoors, that's what I say.








Michael, 54

Everyone at work calls me The Joker.

Because I have such a great sense of humour, I think!









Sanjeev, 40

Sanjesus!

Genuine ad text: 'Marital status: Married'








Celso, 80

I am fun and outgoing but on no account must you EVER disrespect the Family.

And my favourite dish is sweet and sour pork.







Keith, 69

Don't judge a book by its cover. Please!









Ron, 34

The question here is, are YOU good enough For ME. Got that, Chinese woman?









William, 54

Look into my eyes. Not around the eyes.











Zebulon, 28

Don't be put off by my appearance. Everyone in my town looks like this.

And my favourite dish is sweet and sour pork.






And to show that I'm not just taking the mickey out of white guys....


Eric, 27

People often say I bear an uncanny resemblance to Andy Lau. I've no idea why, though!









Rodel, 29

Genuine ad text: 'Large body.'

Well, that always comes in useful I suppose!





Related: Wanted: Chinese Women Pt. 2

This Life + 10 + a Chinese character = ???

I found This Life compulsive viewing during the 90s. At the time, it was the only TV drama to set itself in a world anything like the one I was experiencing although when I look back at the shows now, the dialogue seems incredibly cheesy and unrealistic. Of course, this could mean that I and the people around me at that time were also incredibly cheesy and unrealistic but never mind.

So it was with some anticipation that I tuned in to watch 'This Life + 10' - the much hyped reunion show that would presumably try to portray thirtysomething life in contemporary Britain as insightfully as the originally series showed twentysomething life. Surprisingly, a Chinese character appeared early on in the show. Specifically, a Vietnamese model based in Hong Kong who had married one of the lead characters, Miles (he's the guy on the far right in the picture above, if you don't know the show).

Interesting... How, I wondered, would TV drama's 'voice-of-my-generation' portray a Chinese/English mixed relationship?

Well, sadly, the Chinese character was a bit of a cliche - all timid and awkward - only coming to life mid-way through the show when she had a semi-breakdown (brought on by being around the characters of 'This Life', I guess).

It didn't seem to occur to the writer that a professional model based in Hong Kong might in fact have quite a personality, confidence and energy about her. Clearly, we were being asked to see her as an 'ornamental Oriental' and before long, the acerbic female character, Anna was referring sarcastically to Miles' wife as a 'geisha'.

Later on, Miles says his wife naively married him because she thought he would be 'an English gent'. Anna suggests he went along with it because he thought she would 'an easy ride.'

I thought this was the most interesting aspect as it's not often you see a white, female's perception of mixed relationships expressed so frankly, and it got me thinking.

In Paul Courtenay Hyu's Missing Chink programme of 2004, people in the street were asked to give their general perceptions of Chinese people and at least one (white) female described Chinese women as 'pleasure givers'.

From Little Britain's Dudley and Ting Tong to This Life + 10, white male + Chinese female relationships tend to get a bad press. Often it's suggested the woman is needy or subservient to her man whilst the white male is, by implication, a bit of a loser and inadequate - in some way not good enough to get a 'normal' girlfriend. It struck me that this really isn't a positive view of Chinese or Asian women.

The question is should the media be criticized for these kinds of portrayals, or is it simply reflecting the truth? After all, 'This Life', whether you like the show or not, does strive to be authentic in a way many other shows do not.

It seems to be one of the strange quirks of western media that Asian females are portrayed as universally attractive to white males, whilst at the same time, relationships between white males and Asian females tend to be portrayed as something derisory, sad and not quite as 'real' as other relationships.

Now all we need is for someone to depict a Chinese male + white female relationship and things would really get interesting :)

When fantasy and reality collide.

Whilst many Asian/Western interracial relationships are successful, occasionally things don't quite go as planned and can reveal the way racial ideals and fantasies can obscure cold, harsh reality.

This article by Will Jory, journalist for the Daily Telegraph, starts with a particularly extreme example of the Oriental fantasy turning into a nightmare and then goes on to recount his own experiences which, erm, didn't go to well either. He also discusses the general concept of white English guys' perception of Asian women.

Many Western men take inordinate gambles with young South-East Asian women, the kind of gambles they would never consider at home.

Why? Obviously, there is a physical attraction. For many Western men, the slender, petite, ever-youthful figures of Eastern women can be seriously alluring. Then there is a cultural aspect: Thai women have a grace, a femininity and a deferential sexiness that many women in the West appear to have forsaken.

The attraction of female submissiveness might be reprehensible, but it is none the less real. Who doesn't like having their clothes washed, their meals cooked and their brow smoothed by a soft and loving hand?

Yes, I know the temptation well. For something not entirely dissimilar happened to me, another thirtysomething Englishman, a few years ago.

Well, I don't know. The guy seems totaly down on the whole 'Oriental fantasy' thing but that seems to be mainly down to his own preconceptions being wrong. After all, a lot of mixed relationships actually work out fine.